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Hi, I am a woman and I'm worrying about my HIV status from a possible exposure from a few months ago. I had sex with an Asian man I didn't know well and I didn't know his HIV status. I believe he didn't know his own status either. He gave me unprotected oral sex, I think I also gave him unprotected oral, and then we used condom for vaginal intercourse. He told me he didn't ejaculate (I was a bit drunk at the time, and I can't remember well). He had some red spots on his back, which looked like insect bites? (I didn't ask him). The incident was in New Zealand. After the incident, I think I had a swollen lymph node on my neck for a few days (I can't remember exactly when this occurred) which I didn't really pay any attention to. A month or so after this, I had HIV test and STDs check, all cleared. I didn't pay any more attention to the issue until now. I don't know why but I've been worrying about it lately. And I've been feeling quite tired and have no energy to do anything. What is my chance of catching HIV? I'm not living near an NZAF center but in a small town, and have family working in the health sector so I prefer not to worry them unnecessarily by turning up for a HIV test. Is the home kit test safe and accurate to use? Like the Ez-trust rapid test? It is said to be ISO and GMP certified. I'm talking about the accuracy of the result provided (I'm well over the 3 months window period). Because if the result is positive, I would definitely turn up for another professional test at a health provider. But if it's negative, I don't want to worry anyone else. Please advise me what should I do, I'm really worried.

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I was very drunk and had unprotected sex (oral and vaginal) with a girl at brothel. After 2 days I'm having a running nose and sore throat... not heavy but slight. I asked the girl if she was safe, she said yes and also I didn't cum inside her. I'm getting worried about HIV.

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Hi, I had sex with an Indonesian sex worker recently. During foreplay she put my penis inside her vagina without a condom and it was there for almost 4 seconds. Then I stopped her and we had protected sex. What is my chance of getting infected with HIV? She told me that she is clean and asked me whether I am. Thank you in advance.

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I had sex with a guy recently, we have mutual friends but only met that night. During sex, after he came, one of my nails snagged the condom and it tore. We took it off as soon as we realized and I asked him if he had been tested for HIV and other STI's recently. He said no and then had a bit of a laugh. I said it wasn't funny and he said not to worry, he hasn't slept with anyone he's known to be HIV+. What's my risk of becoming infected? Should I be tested?

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I had anal sex with somebody and I was on top. The condom broke during sex and says he does not have HIV. I did not ejaculate. I am concerned that I might be exposed to infection – is this true?

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Where in New Zealand can I get free condoms?

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I had protected anal sex with a guy who did not know his HIV status; he did not cum at all and he was wearing a condom whilst inside me. He put lube on his penis with his hands before he inserted it. I gave him a blowjob with the condom on and a handjob, he still did not ejaculate. The condom did not break, he gave me an unprotected hand job and I came. His lips touched my penis for a second but I pulled away. What is the risk of me being exposed to HIV ?

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I am looking for dental dams and cannot find them online at NZ sex-shops. Do you have any idea if there is an adult store in Christchurch which sells dental dams? Cheers!

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I had an HIV test 3 months after I had unprotected sex with another man. The result came back negative. That was 3 months ago. Do I need another test to reconfirm? I don't want to approach my GP again as I would have to give her a reason why. I have generally been anxious and depressed for the past few months.

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How long does an HIV test take and when can I get the test results? I had sex without a condom a few weeks ago and I'm really worried.